At a bit of a dilemma...
Posted 12-14-2007 at 10:45 PM by Josh_1
This is a bit personal, but I'm not afraid to share it here. I just need to get this off my chest, actually...
When I was in high school, I liked this girl. We were both in band, and we both were one of the top musicians in the band. She's a pianist, I love to write piano music. She's a beautiful girl both physical and personality-wise.
She's almost always positive, and when she was with her last boyfriend she was as loyal as a lady could be. When I was a senior, I had asked her to go with me to the prom, and surprisingly, she did. We had a great time, and at the end of the night when I had dropped her off at home. I had asked her if she had a good time and she said yes. She asked me the same, and I said yes. But I couldn't just leave after that, it's as if something lingered. So I said that her boyfriend was a lucky man to have someone like her, she said "Aww..." like most ladies would. I then bid her goodnight, and I left. I couldn't do anything more than that as I knew her boyfriend and he was a nice guy.
Now she is single and she attends Ball State. I am wondering if I should ask her out. I'm just not sure if I should ask, but on the other hand I could be missing an opportunity of a lifetime. I don't even know how she feels about me... it's quite a dilemma for me really. I can write a piece of music to perfectly express my meaning and my mood, but when I need to actually talk to express that same thing to someone in words I can't do it as well. It's very ironic.
Anyone have advice?
When I was in high school, I liked this girl. We were both in band, and we both were one of the top musicians in the band. She's a pianist, I love to write piano music. She's a beautiful girl both physical and personality-wise.
She's almost always positive, and when she was with her last boyfriend she was as loyal as a lady could be. When I was a senior, I had asked her to go with me to the prom, and surprisingly, she did. We had a great time, and at the end of the night when I had dropped her off at home. I had asked her if she had a good time and she said yes. She asked me the same, and I said yes. But I couldn't just leave after that, it's as if something lingered. So I said that her boyfriend was a lucky man to have someone like her, she said "Aww..." like most ladies would. I then bid her goodnight, and I left. I couldn't do anything more than that as I knew her boyfriend and he was a nice guy.
Now she is single and she attends Ball State. I am wondering if I should ask her out. I'm just not sure if I should ask, but on the other hand I could be missing an opportunity of a lifetime. I don't even know how she feels about me... it's quite a dilemma for me really. I can write a piece of music to perfectly express my meaning and my mood, but when I need to actually talk to express that same thing to someone in words I can't do it as well. It's very ironic.
Anyone have advice?
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Well, if you felt there was some kind of connection there before, surely it's worth a try?
You could always try to spend some time with her to see if there any signs there before you make a move.Posted 12-15-2007 at 04:25 PM by Ronin
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I'm not sure how close you are with her, but not asking will only make you wonder. Worst thing that could happen is that she says no and isn't interested, but then you'd know right? You can ask her out to coffee or lunch and keep it casual, to catch up or something.Posted 12-17-2007 at 12:26 AM by soapy
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Bad news... she's found someone already. I missed my chance... Oh well, I can only hope for another opportunity. I won't pass it next time! There's plenty of women out there, and I have faith that one day I will find someone to share my love with. Thanks for the advice, everyone
!Posted 12-17-2007 at 07:38 PM by Josh_1
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Josh, I know that this advice is a bit late but I though I'd put in my two cents as an old (well not THAT old) married girl. I had dated someone for three years in high school and I totally thought I would marry him someday. Anyway, things didn't end up working out with him despite all my future plans that I had made in my mind.
A few years later and after dating around I finally met my husband who at the time was dating another girl. I knew there was something special about him. And even though he was with someone else at the time I just felt that it would work out eventually. Well, long story short, he broke up with her, we started dating and a year later we were married!
What I'm trying to say is that you just need to go for it! If you like this girl and you feel there's a connection then don't miss another opportunity to see if there's something there. And if another girl comes along the way that you feel a connection with, explore that possibility also. She should make you feel good about yourself and she should inspire you to be the best person you can be. That's what my husband does for me. Best of luck to you!Posted 01-26-2008 at 09:40 AM by Kimberly Boman
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Thank you for your advice, Kim. I really appreciate it. I've got a possibility with this one girl, so hopefully things will turn out alright. She's even interested in writing music
heh.Posted 02-13-2008 at 08:34 AM by Josh_1
